Sunday 17 June 2018

Matters of Flesh & Spirit


 I recently spent a week back in Europe; and as usual, when back in an environment where I was raised, it provokes much realization about direction, life and the world. Since it’s been warm and bright very early in Hong Kong, I had found myself getting up earlier and going for a walk along with some meditation by the mountains. This kind of reflection time allows one to get away from the hustle, even though most of the day may be full of it. It will let us get away from the hustle if we really try to let ourselves get away. If we don’t want to get away, we can stay in hustle wherever we might be. The hustle, and everything, is ultimately in our mind. That’s where we let it affect us. Following from the early starts in Hong Kong, I found myself within very little time doing the same in London. Getting up and getting the bus in the dawn, with the sun breaking through was enlivening. It felt like the only thing to do. I recently came across a quote by Kobe Bryant. He said “I can’t relate to lazy people. We don’t speak the same language. I don’t understand you. I don’t want to understand you.” There is certainly something to be said for being active, whether it be physically and/or mentally. Being at peace is also an activity; it takes a level of alertness and awareness. Peace is not the same as being lazy. To be mentally free is also active, it is certainly not passive. Passive means to be controlled, active means to take control. Active also should not be mistaken to be some kind of alpha-male, oppressive mentality; it means to be alert and engaged.

On getting up early, I would get the bus and walk to the Temple, the same Temple I would go to when I was at university. Temples can be institutions in many senses. The spiritual dynamic vs the religious dynamic is constantly one that such an institution has to grapple with. Institution is defined by people, positions, rigidity, and rules – these things relate to the “flesh.” Spirituality is defined by thoughtfulness, meditative growth, inner peace; these are things of the “spirit.” As I walked in to the room where there was a form of mantra meditation happening, where mantras are chanted for about two hours, I noticed of around 15 people in the room, I didn’t know a single one. When I was younger, everything evolved around people; who introduced you to it, who is who, etc. Years later, I didn’t see any of the old faces. On my last day I saw the first person I ever met at that temple and he was still exactly the same; extremely peaceful and content. It made me think about the importance of deeply understanding why we do something, rather than the externals which includes the more institutional side of whatever it might be, whether it’s going to the Temple, or studying something. Of course a deep appreciation of who is teaching you is important, but the defining factor really is why you are doing it. This matters, and in the long term it will matter even more. Old people will leave and new people will come, it’s the nature of everything; the more we are attached to the institutional side, the more superficial our commitments will be. The more spiritually we are grounded in what we are doing and why, the more reason and satisfaction we will find in what we are doing.

The problem with youth, and the benefit of youth are that we are naïve and often unable to attribute cause and effect. We listen to everything, we absorb everything, but are often unable to connect effectively what is happening. I guess this is what “experience” means. I noticed in my jiu jitsu training from an early stage that there were a significant number of more senior belts who were really very nice people. They were friendly, humble and generally very nice. I remember thinking they are far better people than I am because of how nice their character is, and how helpful they are. After getting to know them more for a longer amount of time, I can confirm they are genuinely nice people. On reflection, it’s been a very valuable lesson that if we believe that the people who are advanced in our respective fields are genuinely nice people, and better than us in character, then it is worth continuing on that path for we will grow in the right way. If however, people are bad characters, even though very advanced in their fields in their abilities, then it is better to re-evaluate how you are going about your goals and your path. Life isn’t about picking up lots of skills and abilities, it’s about being able to be more content with who you are becoming and what you are doing in this world; we should do what we can to aid an organic and healthy journey for the soul through whatever activities bring balance to our path.